One of the great myths bestowed on us from the last century is that we each have a conscious mind and an unconscious mind. It began with Freud and it’s become an increasingly popular belief ever since, especially with hypnosists and NLP people.
I attended a training recently where a prominent teacher explained how he’d told a metaphorical story to a female client, and “she didn’t get it, but her unconscious got it”.
Is it really useful to create an entity of someone’s thoughts and act as if that’s separate from the person themselves?
Sometimes it is. But often these teachers fail to communicate that the conscious/unconscious distinction is a metaphor – a useful way to think about thinking. We don’t really have two minds. We aren’t really separate from our thoughts.
You can pay attention and be aware of your heart, and it continues to beat even when you’re not paying attention. That doesn’t mean you have a conscious heart and an unconscious heart. It’s just that we’re designed to focus our attention differently at different times, and we’re capable of running processes in the background too.
I’m pretty sure I only have one mind. I’m aware of (conscious of) some of my thoughts and not aware of (unconscious of) others, but it’s all the same mind.
I don’t have “an unconscious” – and nor do you.
It’s much easier to run your own brain when you drop the labels and feel into the experience instead. Conscious/unconscious is a useful metaphor sometimes, and it has major limitations too. It’s a map, not the territory. I suggest people remember that it’s a metaphor and only use it when it’s useful.
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